Actually, I used to be terrible at sex until ten years ago. That’s around the time when I decided to become really good at sex. I studied every resource I could find and practiced everything that I learned. A few years later, I started seeing amazing results, and a few more years down the line, I wanted to share my knowledge with the world. Thepleasurekeys.com was born.
If you feel like I felt before my journey, I first want to let you know that you are far from alone. Most men are bad at sex. The second thing you need to know is that, just like me, you can improve at sex by studying.
Let’s look at why men are bad at sex.
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Why Men are Naturally Bad at Sex
That men are bad at sex is actually totally natural. Like any other skill, sex skills are not exactly something you are born with. What’s strange is that we men are expected to be good in bed, both by ourselves and others. Even regardless of how much experience we have.
How We Learn About Sex
If you haven’t gone through a personal learning process and really studied sex, you probably learned about it from the few ways most people learn about sex. Trial and error, porn, sexual education, and by talking with friends. All of these are pretty bad.
Trial and Error
Together with the others, trial and error is probably the most common approach. However, learning something through trial and error is difficult and takes time. Especially since we are already expected to be good at it, that many women like different things do also not exactly make it any easier (although a lot more entertaining).
Talking with Friends
When discussing with friends, men generally don’t discuss sex from an educational perspective. Unlike women who often have a more open discussion. The few times guys bring up sex, it’s usually in a bragging way. Or just simply positive. For example:
– How did it go with the girl you met last night?
– It was great; I fucked her the whole night.
Or
– Yea, she came back home with me, so it was a pretty good night.
Men are expected to be able to satisfy a woman. So it can often be difficult to acknowledge how it really is. That you’re not that good in bed. And that maybe the sex was really bad.
Porn
Porn is probably, apart from trial and error, the most common way for men to learn about sex. However, porn is made to visually appeal to and attract a male audience. This makes it a bad picture of reality, and not exactly great as teaching material. Often it can even be counterproductive to learn about sex from porn.
Sexual Education
Regarding sexual education, it rarely covers more than how to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs, which is good. But it’s unfortunate and strange that sexual education doesn’t address things that really would improve women’s and men’s sex lives. Something that also would spill over and create positive effects in their everyday lives.
So Many People Being Bad At Sex Creates Terrible Statistics
Unfortunately, it’s also not just men who are ignorant. Sometimes women are totally unaware of what they are missing out on.
All of the above leads to disappointing statistics. According to a recent study, 10 to 40 percent of all women suffer from the inability to experience orgasm. Up to 50 percent of all women do not orgasm during intercourse, even with external stimulation. And 48 percent of all women stated lack of enough arousal or stimulation as the reason they didn’t get an orgasm.
When it comes to faking orgasm, 80 percent of all women have faked orgasm sometimes according to a recent study. And in another study, 11 percent of the women said they faked every time.
Even though exploring herself and learning about her sexuality should be something every woman does. Better knowledge among men would contribute to a drastic improvement in the statistics. A lot of women would get to experience amazing sensations.
Get Better in Bed Now
Luckily there’s no reason why any man should be bad at sex anymore. At The Pleasure Keys, all the information you need to become truly great in bed is available. By applying it all, you will give your woman amazing experiences.
If you are wondering where to start, I recommend my post on how to get better in bed for guys. And if you instead want to get to the results in the fastest possible way, I recommend my ultimate guide to become an amazing lover. Let the journey begin!
