The Definite Foreplay Guide for Men

When most men think about foreplay, they usually think of all the physical contact that is made before penetration. Such as kisses and hugs etc. This is, to some extent foreplay. But in this foreplay guide for men, you will get suggestions and ideas on how to take your foreplay to the next level.

Don’t Restrict the Foreplay

Foreplay may consist of so much more than just physical contact. It can also last for a very long time, sometimes even for a whole day. Everything that you do as a man in a sexual relationship, and that lets your partner know that she is your sensual, sexy, and sexual lover, creates this kind of foreplay.

If you are in a relationship, this type of all-day foreplay is something that you should incorporate into your everyday life. It will make your whole sex life so much better. And if you just started seeing the girl, it will make the sex so much better. So regardless of if you are in a relationship or not, this is something that you always should use.

In the same way that you shouldn’t allow time to limit the foreplay, you shouldn’t restrict it by room. The bedroom can be an easy go-to. But confining foreplay by the walls of the bedroom, is too many women equal to not having any foreplay at all.

So make sure to use foreplay all day and everywhere.

Follow the Foreplay Guide but Vary The Foreplay

To vary the foreplay is also important. Sometimes you take hours to really indulge in exploring, and appreciating your woman’s entire body. While other times you hardly have any foreplay at all. Passionate desire leading to animalistic sex without foreplay may be just as hot, as when sensual desire builds up for several hours, and finally culminates in sexual euphoria.

However, you should not use these two opposites too often. Nor should you have a static procedure that you always use. Instead, be flexible and pay attention to what exactly your woman likes when you use what you’ve learned in this foreplay guide. Love exploring her, whether it’s the first or 1000th time you have sex.

With this said, let’s dive into the foreplay guide.

Foreplay Should Not Just Be Used “Before”

The following text will give you examples of techniques and ideas that you can try and use by themselves. You can also combine them in different ways to create even more intense experiences.

It also needs to be mentioned that foreplay shouldn’t just be something you limit to using before sex. Most of the techniques in this foreplay guide, can be used at any time during the act. However and whenever you find them fitting in. You can also make the sex fluid and nonlinear by taking a step back to foreplay whenever you think it fits. And again, dedicate yourself to sensually exploring your woman’s body.

To take time and slowly build up expectations as well as an intense sexual desire is often the foundation of great foreplay.

In this foreplay guide, I will exemplify this type of slow foreplay, and you will find tips on a variety of techniques that you can use for this purpose. Great foreplay will then help your partner to relax and be in the moment. It will also dramatically increase her likelihood of reaching orgasm.

The Beginning of the Foreplay

Once you are moving towards the bed with your partner (or any other exciting place), you can start the foreplay when she still wears her clothes. Slowly move your hands and fingertips alongside her body. In all the places where the clothes and skin meet, you slowly follow the skin.

Then raise her top slightly and move your fingertips along her stomach and lower back. Don’t just use straight movements, but also move the fingertips as if you were painting waves. This will create a sensual touch. Something that you later can use in public places. Your woman will be aware of the meaning.

Time to Take of Her Clothes

When it’s time to take off her clothes, you normally have two options. Either you take off her top slowly but deliberately, or you passionately tear it off and throw it to the side. Both ways work fine, depending on the mood.

Once you have removed the shirt and eventually the pants, it is important that you take your time. Continue to explore and appreciate her entire body as if the clothes still were on. This way, you will make her feel comfortable, and stand out from all the horny guys who are just looking for penetration.

As you explore her body, you can experiment with the following: Caressing her hair, massaging her forearms and shoulders, and holding her hands. A lot of women also really enjoy it when you move your fingertips along the skin and just above it (so you stroke her body hair with a feather-light touch).

You can also massage, kiss and caress both her hands and wrists, as well as even her feet and ankles.

Regardless of what you do, you should take your time to build up an intense sexual charge, instead of goal-oriented stressing through the experience. Imagine that you are building such an enormous sexual charge, that she will explode in orgasmic pleasure when you finally enter her, and give her all the pleasure she desires.

Create Expectations and Build Sensual Tension

From time to time, you can also stop to create expectations. You can then look her deep into the eyes, and keep eye contact while you slowly return to exploring her body. If she has her eyes shut, you can ask her to look into your eyes.

Caress her all over the body, don’t forget the hair and face. Lightly touch her lips with your fingers and follow them. Feel the texture of her ears with your fingertips.

Smell her neck and enjoy the smell. Talk to her emotionally. Tell your woman how good she smells and how much you enjoy kissing her.

Tell her how beautiful she is, and tell her about all her body parts that you love. In case you love her, tell it to her. Tell her exactly what it is about her that you love.

Exhale hot air on her neck and other erogenous zones or areas of bare skin. Let your breath caress the skin. Pull her towards you and hug her, then carefully push her away to keep the tension. Alternate between fast, passionate kisses and slow sensual kisses.

Kiss her on the forehead, the nose, and then the mouth to create a special bond between you.

Use Your Hands and Mouth

Another great move is to grab hold of her hair next to the roots and tighten your fist. Then you suddenly let go and give her time to take in the beautiful contrast.

Enjoy and experience every little feeling, from how her skin smells and feels, to the sound of her breathing. Appreciate the experience and her body as if you have never experienced anything like it, and never again will feel the proximity of another person.

Whisper something beautiful in her ear while you lightly touch it with your lips. Rest your forehead and nose at hers while you’re looking into her eyes and letting her feel your presence and the warmth from your skin.

Kiss Her in Different Ways and Places

When you kiss her, you should of course pay attention to her throat, neck, earlobe and jaw. But to stand out, you can also kiss her arms, the bend of the arms, elbows, knees, hip, bellybutton, toes, fingers, and the bend of the knees.

Folds, insides of joints, or other areas that women find ticklish in a non-excited state, are areas that they especially enjoy getting stimulated in an aroused state.

A great technique to use is to open up your mouth and place the inside of your lips on your partner’s neck. Then slowly let the inside of the lips slide along her neck until your mouth closes. This will create a really nice massage.

Build Arousal by Creating an Obstacle

Many women are very erogenous around the neck, so pay extra attention to the area between her back and the hairline to see how your woman reacts. Don’t be afraid to add light biting.

You can also grab her neck and give her a playful bite at the neck. Whereupon you push her away from you. In this way, you create a strong dynamic between two competing forces, obstacle, and desire.

To passionately escalate the foreplay, just to push your partner away or prevent her from moving forward, while you yourself eventually continue, is very powerful. You make yourself a challenge and create an interaction based on the classic principle; attraction, along with obstacles, increases excitement and passion. Experiment with this in different ways.

Work Your Way Towards the Breasts

Another simple but great move that your woman will appreciate, is that you actually physically turn her around to her stomach, so you easier get access to her back. This way, you show that you are a man that takes charge. Women love this.

Start with giving her a massage, then move a finger along her spine while kissing her. Kiss along her spine as if you’re giving it a massage with your lips. Work your way around her body with different kinds of sucking and biting.

Eventually, you can move on to the breasts. If the bra isn’t already off, you remove it. Start by just breathing warm air on her breasts and then kissing around them. Be careful not to touch the nipple until you really see the desire of your woman shining through. Move on to using some breast stimulation techniques.

As you escalate through the foreplay, it’s good to do it in a teasing and slow deliberate way. If your partner reacts strongly to something you do, you can sometimes stop and go back two steps or do something else.

This way, you step away from a linear escalation and build up excitement and expectation. While you’re stimulating the breasts, you have a perfect opportunity for this. So check out my post on sexual teasing to get some more specific tips on how you can do it.

Time to Take off the Pants

If she still has the pants on, it’s time to take them off. As with the shirt, you can either remove them calmly and relaxed while kissing her. Or passionately rip them off and throw them in the air.

However, when the pants are off, you should continue to appreciate your woman’s entire body. But also start paying attention to the edges of her panties and her inner thighs. Caress and kiss her along the edge of the panties. Then move on to massaging her directly on the panties, after which you eventually remove them and escalate further.

It is not uncommon that your partner sometimes tries to take the command during foreplay. She may, both verbally and physically, let you know that she wants you inside as soon as possible.

Sometimes you can give in to this, but usually, show her that you’re in control. Build up even more desire by letting her suffer from her lust. Don’t be afraid to use sexual teasing techniques when you notice that she is trying to bring the act forward.

Experiment and Pay Attention

As you’re experimenting with the techniques from this foreplay guide, it’s also important that you pay attention to your woman. Not only to how she reacts, but also to what type of techniques she’s using herself. We humans often have a tendency to do for others what we appreciate ourselves. So don’t hesitate to use the same techniques on her that she is using on you.

Once you’ve found different things that your woman appreciates, you should of course also try to combine these. For example, grabbing your partner by her hair, while slowly touching her breasts with the fingers of the other hand and looking deep into her eyes.

To spice up the foreplay, you can also use different sex toys on your woman. At Mysextoyfinder, you’ll find in-depth reviews of sex toys.

If you still want more tips on how to improve your foreplay skills after having read this foreplay guide, I recommend you to check out my post on foreplay techniques.

Make Her Orgasm Harder Than Ever Before

Once you’re ready to move past the foreplay, I got you covered in my ultimate guide on how to become an an amazing lover.