A few years after I decided to really learn about and become awesome in bed, I happened to listen to a radio show. The theme of the radio show was sex, and they were discussing how long a man should last in bed. The radio host, who was a woman, explained that if the guy she had sex with lasted for more than a couple of minutes, she used to point out that it was okay for her if he came.
Her story surprised me, and that no one called in to question her short time, was also shocking. If she was provoking, nobody took the bait. If, on the other hand, she actually was truthful, it was really time for her to try out a better lover.
Now before I dive into this blog post, let me first give you the correct answer to the question:
According to a survey among sex therapists, the actual time it’s desirable for a man to last is from 7 to 13 minutes. According to another study, a majority of women took 13.41 minutes to reach orgasm. Thus if your aim is that your woman should reach orgasm, it’s recommended to last around 13.41 minutes.
Unfortunately, most men only last around 6 min and this creates an orgasm gap between men and women. Regardless of how long you last, if you would like to learn how to improve in bed and last longer, I recommend you to continue reading.
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How Long a Man Should Last in Bed to be a Great Lover
To complement the numbers above, I first want to point out that even if you want to be a great lover, there is no exact answer to how long a man should last in bed. As usual with sex, variation is a very important ingredient.
At certain times you can spend hours exploring each other’s bodies, and in a variety of ways, experience amazing enjoyment together. While at other times, you can have passionate and intense sex for a time that is more reminiscent of the reporter’s experience.
In order to have some kind of framework to be aware of, you can consider the 13.41 minutes I mentioned earlier.
However, according to other sources, most women reach orgasm after 20 min. Thus at least aiming for more than 20 minutes the majority of times you have sex is a good idea. This, on the other hand, will definitely not be something you need to worry about when you start experimenting with everything that the master key has to offer. However it is not all about 30 minutes of actual penetration all the time.
Sex can be so much more than penetration itself. It can be; fingering, pussy eating, foreplay all day, afterglow during the whole night, and everything in between.
The Duration of Penetration
As for the duration of penetration, there is no right or wrong here either, since variation always is good. Because of porn, men may think it is necessary with an absurd length of nonstop hard penetration. This type of porn sex however is adapted for a man’s jerking of movements. Not a sexual situation with two parties, who neither can ejaculate nor take a rest between the takes.
It’s also not uncommon for male porn actors to use various pills to last this long. Which even may give them difficulties to come once the compulsory “come on her” scene is being filmed.
When guys boast about having fucked the woman all night, it’s only stupidity if they with fucking mean actual penetration. To penetrate an entire night or even a couple of hours is usually too painful and difficult for both parties.
If, on the other hand, they meant that they switched between all types of sex, foreplay, afterglow, intimate talk, and maybe some occasional sleep and pauses for recovery. It sounds like a very nice night for them and their partner.
Great Sex Doesn’t Have to Have a Start or Stop
Really good sex rarely has any fixed start and stop time. It’s about a flowing experience where the energy goes up and down. Together you are moving between different types of atmospheres, as well as sensual and passionate peaks and valleys.
You should never fuck for so long that the woman’s pleasure is disturbed by her becoming sore. Instead, stop or take a break while the sex is good and your woman is enjoying it to the fullest.
Another time suitable for taking a break, can be if you feel like you are about to come earlier than you would like. Then it’s absolutely no problem to just stop, relax and take a break from the penetration.
Don’t tell your woman you were about to come, but instead self-confidently move on to enjoy other parts of her body. Or why not just take a break completely and get a glass of water? Once you feel relaxed and ready, you can start again.
Unconventional Sex is Great Sex
Most women will appreciate the non-linear variation and self-confidence that you exhibit when you take a break, regardless of whether you’re about to come or not. Just because you started with penetration, there is nothing that says you can’t take a break. The less linear and “normal” sex, the better.
However, when you want your partner to have an orgasm, it’s important that you don’t take a break or stop what you’re doing. If you feel like you need a rest, you can instead slow down the pace a little bit. Then continue and lead your woman into orgasm.
Most Men only Last About 6 Minutes
Since all women are different, it’s really only one timeframe that you can actually talk about with certainty regarding how long a man should last in bed. This is the time it takes to completely satisfy the woman you’re with. A time frame that can be very different for different women, and at different times.
As written previously, in today’s situation, the sad reality is that the average time a man lasts in bed is around 6 minutes. Unfortunately, not much longer than the radio hosts experience.
That men, on average, come faster than women isn’t so strange. The man’s most sensitive body part is stimulated very well during sex. While the woman’s most sensitive body part, the clitoris, only is stimulated indirectly. This is also one of the reasons why many women don’t come at all.
The Best Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed
If you want to make your partner enjoy it to the fullest, you should definitely learn to last longer than 6 minutes. So make sure not to miss my ultimate guide to last longer in bed. In this guide, I share all my best tips on how I learned to last as long as I want in bed.
If you want to learn how to fuck your woman like she’s never been fucked before, I recommend my ultimate guide to become an amazing lover.
