How To Last Longer In Bed – The Ultimate Guide

During my research process for The Master Key – The Ultimate guide to become an amazing lover, I noticed that a lot of guys struggle with how to last longer in bed.

However, to struggle with lasting longer in bed means different things for different men. It could be that you come almost instantly, last about 6 minutes as a majority of men, or just feel that it would be good if you had more control over when you come.

Regardless of your situation, this guide on how to last longer in bed is for you. By using the techniques described below, you will dramatically improve your ability to last longer in bed.

Why I Know How You Can Learn to Last Longer in Bed

Way before I created this website, I was on a journey to improve my sex skills. This journey actually started with me having difficulties controlling my ejaculation. So during the first step in my improvement process, I did a lot of research and tried a lot of different techniques for lasting longer in bed.

When I finally cracked the code, it felt awesome. I was really improving my skills. And I became even more inspired to continue my improvement and take my sex game to a whole different level.

Because of my extensive research in the field, I have a pretty good idea of what works and what doesn’t work. However, since everyone is different, there isn’t any magic bullet. What works for some may not work for others.

In this ultimate guide on how to last longer in bed, I go through a lot of different techniques (including my personal favorites). I’m sure that by using and experimenting with the following techniques, you will dramatically improve your ability to last longer and learn to control your ejaculation. With that said, let’s get into it.

The Psychological Aspect of Lasting Longer in Bed

 The reason for premature ejaculation is usually psychological. Being relaxed, feeling self-confident, and enjoying the moment without thinking too much, is often an excellent foundation for solving the problem. So how do you achieve this?

Becoming More Relaxed and Enjoying the Moment

To become more relaxed, you should try to focus on relaxing when you’re having sex instead of focusing on your excitement. Enjoy how comfortable and relaxed you become from every little contact with your partner.

Take deep, relaxing breaths instead of short and stressed breaths. Feel how you slowly become more relaxed with each breath and how you enjoy every one of them. Match your breathing with deep slow strokes and relax more and more for every stroke.

Pay attention to the sensations you feel throughout your body, so you don’t tense up anywhere. Especially not in the muscles around your hip. Also, try to really stay in and enjoy the moment without distracting thoughts. If you have problems with this, try to focus on all the nice feelings you experience by being inside your woman.

Getting Rid of Anxiety and Nervousness

Premature ejaculation is often also related to anxiety or nervousness in your sex life. Anxiety can exist regardless of whether it’s the first night or if you’ve been in the same relationship for years. It may even be a feeling that has been built up for a long time. And if the issue has happened, again and again, you may have learned that you simply can’t last long enough.

In that case, it’s a type of self-consciousness that you have built up. The best way to deal with this, is to simply focus one hundred percent on your woman and her body. Instead of focusing on yourself.

Let yourself be absorbed by every little detail of your woman, her appearance, behavior, and reactions. Her mental state. Fill yourself with all the little details of her that your senses can perceive.

Since your brain only is capable of thinking one thought at a time, it will be impossible for you to think self-conscious thoughts and worry about yourself, if you really focus one hundred percent on your woman.

This kind of presence and attention on the woman is also something you should work on regardless of if you’re having trouble with your ejaculation. It will not only allow you to last significantly longer, but also take sex to a completely different level, both for you and for your woman.

Becoming Self-Confident and Using Your Hands and Mouth

Another way you can get rid of insecurities or worries is by actually becoming more sexually self-confident. To increase your sexual self-confidence, you need to improve your skills. And like any other skill, becoming better in bed is about studying and practicing.

In The Master Key, you’ll find everything you need to master your sex skills. Regardless of what your skill level is at the moment, all the different sections will take your sex game to a whole other level.

Being skilled with your hands and mouth is especially important. If you are good at giving your woman an orgasm this way, you know that you can satisfy her, even if you have a bad day. Just knowing this will reduce your need for worrying and give you more confidence. If you make sure to make her cum before penetration, there are even fewer reasons to worry about not lasting long enough.

Avoiding Premature Ejaculation by Breathing Properly

The most common reason men come prematurely, is that they take shorter breaths the more excited they get. This makes them tenser and tenser as their excitement increases.

The fact that they tense up, makes them come faster. To counteract tensing, you can work with specific breathing techniques in addition to using deep and relaxing breaths.

Triangular Breathing and The Couch Sigh – My Favorite Techniques for Lasting Longer in Bed

• Triangular breathing is my personal favorite technique for increasing bed stamina. You perform it by slowly inhaling, holding your breath, and then slowly exhaling. As a guideline, you can hold your breath for 3-5 seconds. The inhales and exhales should last for about 5 seconds each. Make sure to breathe deeply and fill the stomach with air all the way down to the bottom.

First, go through the breathing exercise and learn how to perform it outside the bedroom. Then use it once you have sex and feel that you’re getting close to coming too early.

To make the technique even more powerful, you can also add visualization. Visualize a triangle and a white light that follows along the triangle’s edges at the pace of your breathing.

• The Couch Sigh is another easy but effective breathing technique. You perform it by taking a big and deep breath. Then exhale with a deep sigh of relief. The kind of sigh you may give away when you sit down on the couch with an ice-cold beer after a hard day of work. A sigh that the body automatically connects with relaxation, and thus makes us feel more relaxed.

You use The Couch Sigh when you are approaching ejaculation during sex. Don’t worry about your woman noticing it; she will be busy with pleasure.

How to Last Longer in Bed Using Different Positions

Another thing you can experiment with to counteract premature ejaculation is positions. By using less stimulating positions or positions that offer better possibilities for relaxation, you will last longer.

• Woman on Top – The woman on top sex position allows you to focus 100 percent on relaxing because you don’t have to thrust. That you don’t thrust, however, also means that you have less control. Which in some cases may affect your ability to last longer in bed in a negative way.

• Missionary – Generally, the missionary is the most stimulating position. Thus, not the best position for lasting longer. But by separating your legs, you make the position a little bit better. You can also increase your partner’s stimulation, as well as reduce your own by lifting up her legs and pushing them against her.

• Doggy style – If you focus on having a relaxed hip during Doggy style, it’s a good position for lasting a long time. You can also use your hands to move your woman’s hip forward and backward over your cock instead of thrusting. This will give you the possibility to relax even more in your hip.

If you still have difficulties controlling yourself after experimenting with all of the above, you should also try out the following techniques:

Body Scanning

While you have sex, you slowly move your focus through your entire body and feel how it relaxes. Begin with your feet, and then go through each little body part separately.

Zoomed-in Focus

Choose a specific body part, such as the back or a toe. Once you feel you are getting too excited and think too much about what your dick is feeling, you move all your focus to the chosen body part. Focus one hundred percent on the body part and all the sensations passing through it.

Accept Your Imperfection

It’s essential that you don’t actively try to push yourself not to come, as this is more likely to create the opposite effect. Accept that you are not perfect and that things sometimes don’t work out the way you want.

Even Ronaldo plays badly every once in a while. If this is your bad game, don’t let it affect you. Keep cool and handle the situation in a smooth way. By showing that you handle a mishap in a cool way, the display will mean more than the actual mishap.

Condoms and Spray For Lasting Longer in Bed

If you are not using condoms, you should consider using them. Since condoms will make you less sensitive, they may help you to last longer. The best condoms for lasting longer are regular condoms or condoms made to make you last longer.

Another way to get less sensitive is to use a desensitizing spray. All though I have never tried it myself, Promescent seems to be the most popular product on the market.

Mental Visualization

Slow down, relax, and imagine swimming in a warm ocean. Hear the sound from the waves and feel the taste and smell of salt. Let yourself be distracted and relax until you’re in control again. A disadvantage of this technique is that it mentally disconnects you from the experience. But if you have a serious problem, all solutions are worth trying.

How to Last Longer in Bed By Jerking Off Longer

One of the reasons why many men come so fast, surely is that most men throughout their entire life have been jerking off quickly. They have thus trained themselves to come fast. Either because of shame, time pressure, that they want to come before someone finds out what they’re doing, or that they simply don’t prioritize sex sessions with themselves.

If you enjoy jerking off and porn surfing, as a majority of all guys do, make sure you take plenty of time for it. Train yourself to be able to last longer and enjoy more.

Experiment with paying attention when you get close to the edge of ejaculation and bring your excitement level down again without coming. This type of experimentation is actually the same method that Tantric men have used to teach themselves to come without ejaculating.

Kegels

Training your PC muscles is an excellent way to create more awareness about how your body and ejaculation work. And even though stronger PC muscles may not be the ultimate fix, it will definitely increase your chances of controlling the ejaculation.

Do Not Distract Yourself

The classic method of distracting yourself by thinking about something completely different and very unsexy, is a bad idea. Which you probably realize yourself if you think about it. That you’re thinking about other unsexy things while having sex is a buzz killer, both for you and your woman.

Sex with an absent person is not exactly a characteristic of good sex. You also risk coming just as fast or even faster once you return to enjoying the moment. Since you then consciously try to avoid coming, and this instead will lead to the opposite as you tense up even more. To learn how to control your ejaculation properly, it’s better to pay attention than to reduce attention.

Paying Attention

Pay attention to and focus on increasing your relaxation, both physically and mentally. If you feel this is difficult for you, you can try to start practicing meditation. Something that doesn’t have to be particularly time-consuming. Start with just ten minutes a few days a week.

Sit down in a comfortable position in peace and quiet. Close your eyes and focus on taking deep and calm breaths. If thoughts appear, let them go as quickly as you notice them. Then bring the peace from the meditation into the bedroom.

The Next Level – Learn How to Fuck Her Like She Never Has Been Fucked Before

By experimenting with the techniques from this post and choosing the ones that work best for you, you should be able to last a lot longer than most guys. You are now ready to really take your sex skills to the next level. In The Master Key, you’ll learn how to fuck your woman like she never has been fucked before.